I made one comment about my wedding- how is that obsessed?

As for the rest- Noted, and since Chris says he's happy with the situation, I'm happy with the situation- I don't really feel the need to have others try to change it. As for pestering- Chris and I talk, a lot. I don't pester him to change his mind. I don't make him answer how I want. He answers all on his own- sorry that his wants no longer match up with Katie's wants, but thats how it is babe.

Glad you let it out, but you're right- I see no need to change my personality- only who I let hurt me. Your wife is no longer on that list. You still are- but the comment about using me for snugglings - or at least that being the only thing I was good for certainly did put a damper on that.

I will not play with someone who only wants to use me for sex, no.

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>I will not play with someone who only wants to use me for sex, no.

So it's ok for katie to be chris's fuckbuddy, but me not to be yours? much as you want me I'm taken, so if we aren't being fuckbuddies that what the hell are we? I'm confused.

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Its not okay for Katie to be Chris's fuckbuddy- but thats between him and her.

And I thought we were friends. I never used you for sex Joe. I care deeply about you- and acted on that. I didn't fuck you because it was the only good thing about you. I thought we were on the same page there- but if not- I guess its better I found out now.

You make it sound like I want you for myself- I'm sorry Joe but I don't- and i've always been very honest about who is first in my heart. You have a lot of characteristics from my "list" that Chris doesn't- but never did I want you to myself. I am in love with Chris, I love you- but I'm not in love with you. I've never been less than honest about that, even as my feelings grew- I've said that.

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and i ad lib "If i had met Joe and chris at the same time, and joe wasnt married to you. I would have went after Joe. I love joe too, but he was already married to you" Said on the saturday you and i talked for x number of hours, to me, before we sat chris down to talk.

you meant every word of it. you all but said to me you are settling for chris cause joe is married to me.

and with that, now i am backing out. I stoop to your level this once.

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Had I met them at the same time and Joe not been attached- I would have been very attracted and he's more my normal type than Chris- so I would have gone after him rather than Chris.

I'm not settling for Chris. I'm certainly not settling for him because Joe is unavailable. That you two believe that is a laugh.

Especially now that I know Joe was just using me for sex- Just because I'm drawn to someone doesn't mean they're healthy for me. My ex used ot tell me repeatedly that my job was to provide him with sex, keep him satisfied. That was my job, and all I was worth. So believe me- I am greatful I didn't have to be confused and drawn to both, I am so greatful that the guy that was available and fell in love with me is the one who loves my personality, who tells me over and over that he would want to marry me and be with me even if we could never have sex again. WHo told me he didn't care about us having sex in the first place if I wanted to hold onto that part of my religious beliefs- all he cared about was ME. So believe me- I'm not settling, I got the better end of this deal- I can see that now. Chris would NEVER say to me what Joe said last night. He would never try to attack me where he knew I was weakest. Luckily Joe- You don't have access to hurt me there. You never have.

Joe- I thought about it last night- but you said the wrong thing. I am worth so much more than the sex. And if thats all you care about- then I need to walk away. I don't need another friend like that. So thanks for the good memories Blue Eyes, but this "friendship" is over. Find another fuck buddy for when your wife ignores you. I'm done.

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